The Mood Hoover

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We were really inspired by the presentation, we will be sharing our experience with the school over the next few weeks with the message. Stay focused on your own thoughts and feelings, and be mindful of what they are telling you – if you feel very different after hearing someone else talk, talk a moment to re-focus on yourself.

Challenging the way someone is doesn’t mean you have to do this is an unkind way, just perhaps an honest one. Instead of engaging in negative conversations, steer the conversation towards more positive, optimistic topics. Darrell started to see his negative behaviours and how he would feel good at one point but then pivot back to being grumpy and miserable. However, don’t we all know that often the mood hoover is often the one whose performance struggles to be the better side of acceptable?DH you’re tired a lot at the moment even after a full nights sleep - do you think you should see the GP? I’ve been teaching online lessons and yes, it was hard at first, but you give it a go; try it out; learn; adapt.

You need to start planning your exit now before your children and you are further affected by his abuse. A key strategy is to disengage from the negative conversation topic and switch to another, lighter or more positive subject. A mood hoover won’t accept responsibility for their own failures and may try to blame someone or something else for missed deadlines, poor performance or conflicts. Her head was constantly down and rather than viewing the world in any kind of positive light, she seemed to view everything through gloomy, grimy glasses. They don’t waste time moaning about the things they can’t change, but find a way to positively influence the things that they can.I can’t remember when or where I first heard the phrase ‘mood hoover’ but I think it’s a great term to describe people who just ‘hoover up’ any good feelings in an environment and replaces them with their own, whatever they may be (but usually negative ones). Dealing with someone who is constantly negative can be challenging, but it's important to remember that you have control over your own reactions and behaviours . You need to get the strength to even contemplate leaving, it's very easy for people to say "just leave" but the reality is overwhelming and you do nothing for years but are blamed for the effects on the kids.

True ‘mood hoovers’ however, can make for a more difficult employee, as they are entrenched in their behaviour. But, hopefully this article has allowed people to reflect on such interactions and understand that if they don’t challenge it, it is at least important to make sure your own mood is affected, overall, in as little way as possible. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. The correlation between dramatic, pessimistic, chaotic people and their underlying need for attention is complex. If the hoover is a friend, it may be easier to confront the person, but it may still be the easier option to not.The kind of person who people draw straws not to sit next to at the Christmas Party because they’ve always got a worse problem than the person with the problem.