Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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I read this book twice before starting very slowly the exercises at the end of each chapter (optional) and the way I now feel and act is begining to prove very beneficial. prisitaikyti, ypač LT, savo situacijai gali daug kas - gal čia išvis yra šių laikų psichologijos mada / ženklas, tas "mano emocijos vaikystėje buvo neglectinamos, mano asmenybė buvo nepastebėta".

Anything that affects your behavior that you find yourself trying to control situations to avoid that behavior. It feels incredibly dated and, while I do not doubt the author's enthusiasm and compassion, it was grating at many points.

Uma mensagem por e-mail será enviada antes do término do período gratuito, que pode ser cancelado a qualquer momento. Maybe some people would be able to just "stop" doing codependent behaviours - and kudos to them if they can! I want to be very clear, though - I am NOT telling other people to abandon or avoid 12 Steps work if that is what they choose to engage for themselves.

Man labai patinka pavyzdžiai, kaip Jėzus padeda kitiems, bet tik tada, kai žmonės jo paprašo, ir padaro tai, ko jie prašo, o ne apipila neprašyta pagalba ir reikalauja dėkoti jam 24/7. This book was recommended to me a few years ago as a classic in the genre for dealing with codependent behaviours. I also think Beattie's manner of talking about her God and Christian beliefs ought to be openly qualified and articulated as HERS - it's ok for her to hold those beliefs, but own them honestly in a way that acknowledges that MANY others DO NOT share them. I was thinking of "co-dependency" in a more generic sense — say, the way a married couple can be enmeshed and lose their boundaries with each other. Codependency has a very wide definition, but the best way that I understand it after reading this book is that codependent people let the negative behaviors of those around them affect their own feelings and behaviors in a negative way.For anyone who has a history of alcoholism in their family of origin or going through alcoholism with a partner this is a MUST read.

Melody Beattie strikes the right non-judgementak tone while laying things out clearly and objectively around the idea of co-dependency in relationships. As it is, I found it more frustrating than helpful, and would suggest going to other books on this topic for help ( Meowbie's review has some recommendations). The bottom-line is most people can probably benefit from this book, and you (thankfully) don't have to be an addict or the spouse of an addict to find meaning in it.

I found it incredibly frustrating to have to continue to listen to the bombardment of 12 Steps views. While there may be a steep learning curve at first, meeting these needs will be a fulfilling and rewarding journey. We trust that Someone greater than ourselves knows, has ordained, and cares about waht is happening. Although she was rescued the same day, the incident set the tone for a childhood of abuse, and she was sexually abused by a neighbor throughout her youth. I read this slowly, over a few months, digesting each new piece and practicing applying everything in my day-to-day life.