My Feudal Lord
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Most of the people who read this book state pretty much the same thing: that they loved it when they read it, but now that Tehmina Durrani has married Shahbaz Sharif, they can’t believe she would marry into the same social circles, and that she probably deserves any more shit she gets, for choosing to marry such a corrupt man. Caught in the web of family drama and the prospect of social stigma Tehmina endured for a long while, but there comes a point when enough is enough!
The author left her first husband to marry him,and the way she describes it,found herself in a living nightmare. Looking at pictures of present day Khar makes it hard to understand how a younger version of him could have ever looking alluring or attractive, but whatever it was, for the young and unhappily married Tehmina, who herself stated that by all accounts her husband was a nice enough man (with whom she also had a baby) whom she never managed to love. She simply jumps from one theme to the next, with little understanding of the concepts she is attempting to discuss (especially the "women's role in Muslim society" that the book allegedly illustrates).He is a Barbarian who tries to mingle among the elites of society but always stands out because of his feudal heritage and rural upbringing.
Ms Durrani in this book is less upset of how Khar fooled the people he claimed to represent, she is more upset how he abused her individually, while abusing a woman is in itself inexcusable, what is notable is that she did enjoy the priveleges associated with the life of a powerful man's wife gets you. It does not come off as a wolf-sheep combination at all for me to be entirely sympathetic to her ordeal. Tehmina Durani, the teller of her life story, sketches in quite a lot of detail about her tumultuous marriage to Mustafa Khar, a Pakistani politician who is the epitome of every abusive husband ever.What I find so ignorant and sexist of other reviewers is they fail to acknowledge her suffering, what is a greater sin is that they fail to scrutinise the man who is the oppressor in this true life story. If mustafa was a psycho she also used to provoke him with her stubbornness, and the man couldn't trust her as she herself admitted because of having extra marital affairs with mustafa when married with anees. For him, wives were perfectly acceptable venues for expressing his anger, laying his hands on, exerting control over. Does one judge a biography on how faithful to reality it is, or how comprehensive in containing the life under discussion? She wanted to be the part of high society attention of the most powerful man of Punjab and did everything for it.
There's no love lost when her marriage to Anees breaks down, nor any suspense or anger when Mustafa is unfaithful.
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