[(My Feudal Lord)] [by: Tehmina Durrani]

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Also, most of what happened with her was self-inflicted (I don't mean the violence of course). It is SHE who broke another woman's marriage and home, and then spends the rest of her life complaining about having gotten a raw deal. She hated her sister for following her footsteps in starting an affair with a powerful and charismatic man (Mustafa khar).

I was haunted by feelings of being a non-person and by extremely low self esteem. If Mother did not approve of me and love me, Anees’s weak opinion – and those of his lower-positioned family – was of little consequence. Tehmina Durrani was born into a strangely dysfunctional family with a combination of an over dominating mother and a mostly absentee father. Cursed with dark skin, she was forever ignored and psychologically led-down by her mother. Nevertheless, she grew up to be charming young lady who drew many a male attention but never from anyone her parents might approve. Her first marriage was to Anees Khan, a man of lower social standing than Tehmina's family. However, his love could not hold her interest too long in front of the charismatic Mustafa Khar (a prominent political figure in Pakistan), whom she met at a social gathering and instantly fell in love with. Little did she know that the public and private faces of Mustafa Khar were two different entities! Amnesty International Document – Pakistan: Insufficient protection of women". Amnesty International.You see a timid woman, looking to prove herself to her family, who has a thing for men in power (or powerful men?) And when you eventually warm up to her, (or feel sorry for her), which you do by the time you're halfway through the book, you can't help but think of Tehmina as a person you know; a friend who has made a few mistakes, and really, really, want her to stand up for herself. It was at this point that my opinions started to make themselves manifest. Usually when I review a book, I like to separate the book from the author: the author is dead, as Roland Barthes would say, and my job is to comment on the text without the contextualization of the author’s actions. Reviewing a biography, however, sort of makes that an impossibility, because what you are commenting on is the author’s life itself. One must also take into account the fact that any biography will feature a version of the events that puts its author forward in the best possible light. One of the most intense conversations I had during the reading of this novel was in questioning the veracity of the claims put forward by Durrani. According to her, her father was encouraged by Bhutto to secretly transfer state assets from East Pakistan to West before the 1971 separation. Her father’s refusal led to his being thrown in jail once Bhutto came to power. The book does not buzz with a nail-biting tale, as it certainly describes a woman’s fight against a deep-rooted social system – which has double standards. Può essere anche di grande aiuto per capire tutte le dinamiche distorte che si innescano in un rapporto coniugale patriarcale e non del tutto paritario.

The South Asian Women's NETwork: Tehmina Durrani (Account of Sawnet.org has been suspended. 8 October 2015.) The amount of courage and boldness Ms. Durrani showed, despite of her conservative and conventional barriers, by writing this book is deferential. I,Riaz, Amber Fatima. 2012. “Architectures of The Veil: The Representation of The Veil and Zenanas in Pakistani Feminists’ Texts.” PhD dissertation, University of Western Ontario. Reporter, The Newspaper's Staff (11 January 2017). "Tehmina Durrani Foundation – 'extension of Edhi model' ". DAWN.COM . Retrieved 16 October 2018. A book, difficult to digest because it is autobiographical. The atrocities that happen on the protagonist are monstrous. The husband a still functioning politician in Pakistan. It makes me rethink about our politicians too. We never think good of them anyway but never expected them to be of quite this level either. The parents, the sisters are an awful mix of support and destruction. The protagonist at the end frees herself and tells her story. Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2012-05-17 18:08:49 Bookplateleaf 0010 Boxid IA153906 Camera Canon EOS 5D Mark II City London Donor Amidst all this, she develops meningitis. She miraculously recovers but gets tagged as mentally unstable for her whole life, accredited to this incident. This is the incident Mustafa Khar would later use to gaslight her that since she is mentally weak, she is always imagining things.