The Art Of Seduction

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They have some void in themselves that you can fill. Happy, contented people don’t make good targets. Don’t bother with them. The best target is someone who has a void you can fill or a flaw you can take advantage of. This is the male version of The Siren. The Rake type does anything to get the woman. He uses seductive words and shows his bad side so the woman wants to listen to him more and even reform him. The Siren targets men’s eyes while The Rake targets women’s ears. Which sort of seducer could you be? Siren? Rake? Cold Coquette? Star? Comedian? Charismatic? Or Saint?

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Being judgmental: Nobody likes to be put down and criticized, so a judgmental nature will be a turnoff. Keep your criticisms to yourself. a b c Chang, Andrea. American Apparel's in-house guru shows a lighter side. The Los Angeles Times. August 30, 2011.The season's most talked-about all-purpose personal strategy guide and philosophical compendium," said Newsweek of Robert Greene's bold, elegant, and ingenious manual of modern manipulation, The 48 Laws of Power. Now Greene has once again mined history and literature to distill the essence of seduction, the most highly refined mode of influence, the ultimate power trip. This article is an excerpt from the Shortform book guide to "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene. Shortform has the world's best summaries and analyses of books you should be reading. First impressions aren’t always accurate, but that doesn’t mean people will give you a second chance to rectify them. And some behaviors are just wholly unattractive. Here are nine of them:

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The Ideal Lover. We all have broken dreams. The ideal lover represents the fantasy of those dreams without the disappointment we’re used to from reality, life, and other people. What you are after as a seducer is the ability to move people in the direction you want them to go.” To begin, identify which seducer type you have a natural tendency toward. This will be the primary character you’ll play. Greene’s steps toward fully embodying your seductive personality are: People are constantly trying to influence us, to tell us what to do, and just as often, we tune them out, resisting their attempts at persuasion. There is a moment in our lives, however, when we all act differently – when we are in love. We fall under a kind of spell.”

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For better or worse (depending on your stance), Greene is persuasive that seduction is a game between equal partners where the 'victim' is willing enough for what they will get out of the process. The desire to become better and prosper is ingrained in human psyche. This is something that also motivates us to keep clear of people who have a lower social value. It’s because even evolutionarily our chance of surviving and procreating greatly increase when we seek beneficial partnerships in all spheres of life. It’s like we are naturally conditioned in a way to associate with the people of high value. 15. Being Ambiguous is Charming Charmers are those who seduce by making their targets the center of attention. They don't highlight their own selves, but rather their entire focus is on bringing comfort and pleasure to their targets. They avoid all sorts of conflict and appeal to a person's vanity by making them talk about themselves. They watch and observe allowing their targets to open up completely. Once they know their weaknesses, they use that information to give them what they want. This allows them to have a complete hold on their targets. Greene gives the example of Benjamin Disraeli and Queen Victoria's relationship. Disraeli knew that Queen Victoria longed for a man's attention and used this insight to gain her confidence and proximity in court. In this guide, we’ll set the ground rules for a successful seduction, and then we’ll divide the seduction process into two major parts. In Part 1, we’ll introduce the types of seducers and “victims” Greene identifies, so you can determine which role suits you best and how to approach your intended target. In Part 2, we’ll cover the specific steps of the seduction process.

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The Siren. As a woman, you can portray the ultimate fantasy for a man: an uninhibited, promiscuous, pure symbol of pleasure. The attitude to sex is also counter-intuitive to Anglo-Saxon moderns. It is presented as a prize and not as some 'sacred' thing alienated from the bodies that couple. It is a fact on the ground. A pleasure. Of all the charms one can unleash on a woman, time has essentially the highest value. This makes it important that one should keep their long term mind before everything else. So, don’t be in a hurry. Through your charm, you can prolong the situation, which would surely make you widen your options giving you time to effectively plot a counterstrategy. I would add that the transgressive aspects of seduction can allow individuation to both parties – it would often seem that seducers get trapped in the game, while the seduced move on into something different. Which one of these are you? Which one could you be? And who have you fallen for in the past? More analysis, more patterns, more fun! Lesson 3: Try to spot anti-seductive behaviors in others and yourself and get rid of them.One warning Greene offers about this tactic: be sure not to use it too early on. Wait a bit to introduce the pain. And don’t use this on people who already have too much pain and suffering in their lives—it will turn them off. Type 5—“The Charmer”—hooks their targets by appealing to their vanity and showering them with flattery. They boost the target’s self-esteem by paying them compliments designed to soothe their insecurities. Type 5 seducers never criticize or disagree with their target. They always agree, flatter, and boost the target. This particular seduction strategy is a long con and is not overtly sexual. Impatience: Reacting negatively when you have to wait for anything indicates self-absorption. Remember, patience is a virtue. Bruce, Robert (October 21, 2001). "The Art of Seductive Writing: A Conversation with Robert Greene". Copy Blogger. Many of the tales derive from high-ranking courtly cultures where seduction and romance were bound by rules of conduct that were strict enough to suggest appropriate behavior but not so strict as to introduce bourgeois guilt or shame into the game of sexual conquest.

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Windbags don’t pay attention to a single word you say because they’re busy thinking about their own next sentence. A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play—by always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ulti- mate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her pres-ence, which is always heightened andsexually charged, the male feelstransported to a world of pure plea-sure. She is dangerous, and in pursu-ing her energetically the man can losecontrol over himself something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating a par- ticular appearance and manner. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male li- bido by embodying his fantasy. Some of people get caught up in long term relationships which are unhealthy and take them out of the self-improvement cycle. If that is you, now is the time to step up and grow by following this guide. It’d not only help you improve the number and the quality of the women in your life, but also to grow as a person and develop a healthy and productive lifestyle.Step 3: Take advantage of childhood trauma. Get your target to talk about their childhood and play the role of “therapist.” Listen intently and notice where they express something missing in their life, then fill that for them. For example, if they didn’t get enough encouragement as a child, become encouraging. Or if they had uninvolved parents, become parental toward them by being loving but also sometimes “scolding” or “punishing” them. (Shortform note: While genuinely wanting to fill an emotional or psychological void for someone can be healthy, purposefully using someone’s trauma to manipulate them is a behavior often associated with psychopathy.)